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Discoveries of a Mom

"…these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love." Hymn of love, 1 Cor 13:13

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discoveriesofamom

Mom of four, sharing some learnings along the way of parenthood.

….so when I saw this one a few days ago, I almos ....so when I saw this one a few days ago, I almost felt nostalgic.... I still remember being in the midst of daily piles of shoes, or towels, or pots and bowls... While being in the trenches of parenting babies and or toddlers, this is difficult to enjoy.... But then one day, it just stops.... Realising that has helped me be more relaxed about it the third and fourth time around.... I started thinking 'this could be the last time I have to pick up all these shoes...' and it became easier....Maybe being reminded of this will help you too - or remind you of what your toddlers used to pile on the floor....? Let me know in the comments 💬💝 and send this to a mom who needs to be reminded that this will pass, and happy memories will remain... Sending love #toddlerlife #parenting #attachment #messyart #howchildrenlearn
And now for all my German speaking friends the sam And now for all my German speaking friends the same info - in German 🤗www.discoveriesofamom.com/der Hier findest du Infos zu allen Kursen, und in der Übersicht aller Kurse sind die englischen Kurse auf Englisch gelistet und die deutschen Kurse auf Deutsch. Ich hoffe mal Google translate macht mir das keinen Strich durch die Rechung 🤔🫣Du kannst alle Kurse auf der Webseite buchen oder mir hier eine Nachricht schreiben wenn du noch Fragen hast 💕Mehr Infos zu Dr Tessabella Lovemore und der Initiative, die ihre Kurse verwaltet, gibt es auf ihrer Webseite www.tessabellalovemore.comMorgen bin ich auch bei der Langen Nacht der Anthroposophie in Stuttgart anzutreffen - und beantworte gerne alle Fragen persönlich 🥰Ich freu mich auf dich! Liebe Grüße #selbstentwicklung #erziehung #bindung #friedensarbeit #lebensfreude
www.discoveriesofamom.com/en My website has all da www.discoveriesofamom.com/enMy website has all dates listed now for the courses starting over the course of a year. English courses are listed in English, German courses are listed in German.... I hope Google translate will not mess that up 🤔I would be so honoured to have you on one of the courses! If you want more information on the courses, head over to my website or visit Dr Tessabella Lovemore's website www.tessabellalovemore.com for details on the courses as well as the dates. If you have any questions please dm me 🤗 I look forward to sharing time and (digital) space with you 💝 Sending love#selfdevelopment #peacebuilding #parenting #attachment #joyfilledliving
On Saturday you will find me at the "Lange Nacht d On Saturday you will find me at the "Lange Nacht der Anthroposophie" here in Stuttgart - come to have a chat about any of the courses I offer, or just for a hug 🫂 I will be on the campus, somewhere shady 😅close to the food trucks 😋 most of the time from 2pm to midnight. This 2m roll up banner should make it easy to find me 🥰 see you there 😘
When trying to understand attachment styles, I lik When trying to understand attachment styles, I like to think of it in terms of visiting a friend whose home language I don't speak and culture I don't know. If my friend is attuned to my needs, this allows me to feel safe and thus able to fully embrace the learning experience. But what if they are distracted or busy and I have to keep catching their attention when my needs are arising? Or worse, they are stressed or even scared - in which case my survival instinct is going to compel me to look away from them and rather lookout for the danger.... I would miss out on many details of what the culture is like, or have to go through trial and error to learn social norms etc ...This is how I like to put myself into a child's position, even if simplified.... It helps me try to attune to their needs when I see them anxiously catching my attention or maybe rejecting my offers of care. The latter is a behaviour that I have found to ease when I put effort into attuning to the child again more consciously. I would love to hear your thoughts on this 👇🏻💬#attachment #howchildrenlearn #parenting #anxious #avoidantattachment
When I'm watching my children experimenting, I ten When I'm watching my children experimenting, I tend to be alert, watching closely to know when to step in to prevent a mess that needs cleaning up.... But doing this simple exercise of observing their learning - which includes how they may handle the mess - allows me to step back and relax. There is no call for immediate action, and that allows my body to go back into its parasympathetic state. Being with the children in this state turns out to be enlivening rather than exhausting!Out of this calmness, I can be a resource to the children when they need help. If you want to find out more about the How Children Learn course or any other of Dr Tessabella Lovemore's courses visit www.tessabellalovemore.com or my website at www.discoveriesofamom.com/en/howchildrenlearn Share this with a mom who finds parenting exhausting - let's support each other finding our way back to calm and connected parenting 💕#parenting #calm #observation #howchildrenlearn #attachment
We are starting tonight at 7.30pm CEST 🥳 anyone wa We are starting tonight at 7.30pm CEST 🥳 anyone wanting to join our first lesson for free, please send me a DM so I can share the link 💕 #attachment #parenting #howchildrenlearn #learningtoloveparenting #joyfilledliving
When I met Tessabella, I thought I was doing fine When I met Tessabella, I thought I was doing fine socially,  and kind of alright in parenting. I wanted to do her love course because of how she described it could bring about peace. Then when I did do her courses, all my relationships benefited, with the adults in my life from the How to Love course, and with the children from the How Children Learn course.I am so grateful for the peace and joy that fill my life now. If you wish for more peace and joy in your relationship with the children in your care, then join me on Monday  for a 6 month process of learning how to achieve just that - connection joy, and peace.For more about Tessabella and her courses visit her website www.tessabellalovemore.com or my website www.discoveriesofamom.com
When we are experiencing emotionally challenging t When we are experiencing emotionally challenging times, it is not always possible to feel all the feelings in the moment. So they get stored in our bodies, which is not necessarily the best thing for our health. But memory can bring these feelings out again, giving us a second chance to feel them and let them go... What a gift for our well-being - both physically and emotionally...There are other ways then using old crockery to let these feelings out - people who have had big losses in their lives tend to cry reading books or watching movies, simply because something in the story, or even just the setting of watching a movie or reading a book brings up memories and allows us to grieve again, incrementally, until it has all come out.My dad passed away 21 years ago, my twin brother 17 years ago, my mom 8 years ago... I have cried many tears over books and movies and broken bowls, and with every tear the body relaxes and lets go of the pain and resistance. And so the tears come less frequently, less intense, and what remains is gratitude - for life, for experiences, and for all these memories.May your memories heal you too - the good and the bad....Sending love, Johanna#grief #memories #healing #gratitude #lovinglife
When I had my first child, it took me by surprise. When I had my first child, it took me by surprise. Life as a mom was so different and at the same time so demanding, I didn't have a moment to stop and think, hmm, maybe I can learn how to do this more easily. And so parenting was hard....When I happened to come across a course for parents and professionals working with children, I was somewhat surprised this was out there. I didn't even think it was possible for parenting to be something that could give me joy more than feeling hard.But it is. And I am so grateful I did come across it. Being able to enjoy parenting is the best thing that ever happened to me. Now I am teaching this course - together with Lara @lara.outthere. We still have a few open spots and would be delighted to have you come onboard. The course is every Monday night for 1h over six months. Working through the motifs and using the exercises will help you transform your home or work life so that it can give you energy and joy...#parenting #teaching #howchildrenlearn #secure #attachment
Have you seen swans take their chicks for a walk? Have you seen swans take their chicks for a walk? Always one parent in front, then the chicks one by one, and then the other parent at the back. The first one showing the way, the one at the back making sure no chick is getting lost.... Both roles equally important.We need to show the way and how to get there, but then make sure even the youngest, who will inevitably explore right and left of the path, is reminded of where everyone is headed. A gentle 'look where the others are' is often enough to shift the attention back to following the siblings ahead.What is your experience with taking children for a walk? Let me know in the comments below 😘#swans #stroll #howchildrenlearn#attachment #parenting
As a mom it is not easy to stay on top of the many As a mom it is not easy to stay on top of the many demands family life brings and stay regulated at the same time. But today I found what may help me get back into the parasympathetic state more consistently. Swimming! The last time I went swimming and got into the flow of it was at university, about 15 years ago now... Since then going to the pool meant looking after children and there was no time to swim long enough to get into this flow.Today I took that time. And then being in the flow relaxed me in a way I had not experienced consciously ever before. I guess it takes a few children to start appreciating what was normal before....If you have been swimming before and forgot like me, let me tell you, it is so worth it carving out the time to swim! #regulation #swimming #breathwork #attachment #parenting
Reaction time is under 3 seconds, if we manage to Reaction time is under 3 seconds, if we manage to slow down enough to bridge those first three seconds after walking in on whatever the newest experiment may be, we can then consciously - and calmly - choose our response. I am repeatedly surprised how few situations still seem dangerous or unreasonable after a few deep breaths have calmed down the sudden rush of blood in my body.... How do you calm yourself in these situations? Let me know in the comments 🙏🏻#experiment #howchildrenlearn #attachment #keepcalm #parenting
Children learn with time – and better so without c Children learn with time - and better so without correction and instruction. Their natural ability to imitate allows them to take in and learn everything that happens within their surroundings. It may just need another opportunity for them to observe you doing it, until they learn the next layer of this skill....So, whenever I am impatient, or tempted to correct and instruct, I try to remind myself of my drawing class, and how all it took was time and repetition for me to start seeing, and then drawing, an additional layer of shadow....#drawing #howchildrenlearn #patience #attachment #parenting
Another birthday invitation, another window pictur Another birthday invitation, another window picture.... When I'm asked what my hobbies are, this is what mostly comes to mind - home made gifts for the friends of my children....Who can guess which Grimm fairy tale it shows? Tell me in the comments below 🥳 #crafting #hobbies of #moms  #handmadegifts #fairytale
Do you have ways to make someone's day? I'd love t Do you have ways to make someone's day? I'd love to learn more ways to lift people's spirits.... #trust #trustworthy #oxytocin #community #positivevibes
Research is very clear, for long-term mental healt Research is very clear, for long-term mental health and resilience, it is important that children grow up with a sense of being safe in this world.  And so the question arises, how can we make our children feel safe, even when we are not physically with them? Calling them reliably is such a beautiful example of how to do this. In fact, my mother called me regularly (even if weekly) and reliably when I moved out of the home, and it did make me feel connected and safe even at the age of 17... #feeling #safe #secureattachment #parenting #howchildrenlearn
It does not take harsh words for children to stop It does not take harsh words for children to stop doing childish things... It only takes time and love of learning.The tulips will grow again next year, and if he has not learned it by then, it will only take another year for them to grow back again. But harsh words will remain in their hearts, and mine.... The echo of my shouting is still ringing in my ear.... Serving me as a reminder of how important it is that I place awareness on my internal state, and regulate myself whenever I encounter a trigger on my parenting journey....#children #tulipseason #attachment #howchildrenlearn #regulation
Life can get so busy that we can easily forget abo Life can get so busy that we can easily forget about these small moments of connection... And yet they mean everything. Taking the time to look at each other with love, can transform the relationship we have, creating a space of timelessness and joy.If you want to learn more about loving light, as Tessabella Lovemore describes this warm look of interest and regard, and other motifs that support a secure attachment, then come join the How Children Learn course I will be teaching soon! #lovinglight #howchildrenlearn #attachment #bonding #activepracticallove
Thank you to Eli Harwood, the @attachmentnerd for Thank you to Eli Harwood, the @attachmentnerd for this very on point picture of what goes on in the mind of an abusive person. When I heard it, my thoughts immediatedly turned to parenting, and how this dynamic plays out between parents and their children. I have certainly acted in ways towards my children that I can now see have been abusive. Not because I am a bad person, but because I was overwhealmed in the situation. And I have experienced my parents trying to control me when I was a child too. Again, not because they were bad people, but because they were overwhealmed too... The difficulty with this dynamic in parenting is though, that children cannot simply leave their parents as Eli says - at the most covert sign that their parent feels entitled to control them. Instead they will have to adapt, and will carry the scars into adulthood. They are likely to grow up thinking it is normal for parents to try and control their children (as I did when I first became a mom). Maybe even that it is normal to control any other person who is making them feel uncomfortable....Personally, I feel it always helps to look at a certain dynamic from an adult-to-adult perspective, to then understand what impact it has on a child. One example is crying - if a friend of mine is crying, I would open my arms wide and hold space for them, for as long as they need to regulate again. And when I picture it with a friend, I can feel how wrong it would be to close the door on them and ask them to regulate themselves. And that is how I can know I never want to do that with my children either. And so now, with Eli's explanaition, I can see how trying to control the behaviour of a child is abusive. And practise to be aware, and to solely focus on myself in moments of overwhealm...Let me know in the comments what you think about all this.... Sending love, Johanna#abuse #parenting #attachment #selfawareness #selfcontrol
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